BUT Loving yourself ain’t the same as fucking yourself.
WE need to love ourselves more.

AND now for a poem:

Loving Yourself Ain’t The Same As Fucking Yourself

Silicon late night sessions,
Self therapy and live action role playing games,
Coming to my own self realization.
A Ménage à trois with me, myself, and I,
Every single Goddamn night! and morning…
I really thought I was self sustained…

Being self aware is like fucking yourself
and knowing what gets you off.
Essentially, you should be your best lover.
But when it comes down to it,
It still just feels like fucking.
And I was just fucking myself over.

I was my own buddy but not a friend,
A lover without a relationship status.
I was using it and getting used.
A player, playing myself. and losing.
I was good, but I was just a trick.
What’s love got to do with it?

Part of me was doing it to feel something,
Plastic up my pussy didn’t fill the void I was thinking.
Sure it felt good, but it didn’t feel like love.
I was confusing myself with the sex,
Boy did I need some self help.
Fucking yourself ain’t the same as loving yourself.

Part of me would even feel a little bad
Like fucking is all i wanted,
Part of me was convinced i wasn’t ready for a relationship.
How the fuck do you get emotional with yourself?
Yet part of me wanted both the icing and the cake.
Only problem was, i wasn’t in love with myself.
—

Alot of women who ‘got it on lock’ – got the money, and the cars, and the career… think because they have this superwoman image of themselves, that to have such success is an indication of their self awareness. Afterall, how could one get so far without realization of their talents and motivations? How could they manage it all without a little bit of “Hakuna Matata” yoga sessions and scheduled stress detoxing wednesday bath nights (candles and Sia music included)? You are so busy you even schedule time for yourself. Yes m’am you are self aware of your flaws, your shortcomings, your lack of time, and above all what gets your ego trippin. You are self sustained… so much to the point that you don’t have time for a relationship, and believe it or not you don’t even care for one. You are even self-sustaining your sexual frustrations.

But listen ladies… being self aware is like fucking yourself and knowing what gets you off. It’s not the same as loving yourself. Think about it. You can have epic sex with a one night stand. You might be lovin’ it at the moment, but hell you don’t even know dudes name and sure as hell don’t love him. It’s no different when it comes to yourself. The point is, if you have thought all this time that your self awareness was doing the job in terms of loving yourself, then you’ve just been fucking yourself over. No wonder despite having it all, you feel incomplete.

Being self aware is like fucking yourself and knowing what gets you off. It’s not the same as loving yourself.

Recognizing your faults via self awareness doesn’t lead to happiness unless you are able to translate that awareness into action. It is never coming to terms with aspects of yourself you cannot change. You can always change. Loving yourself is taking awareness of your shortcomings, being honest with yourself about what needs to change, and then turning awareness into action. For the superwomen out there, part of your self realization should be that it’s okay if you aren’t perfect. And part of your perfection just might be your tragic flaw. Sometimes perfection is the route of all evil and the changes you need to make with yourself is simply to strive less for it.

The fear, I’m sure, of all super women out there is the fear of rejection. It is an indication of low self esteem. And loving yourself is the art of high self esteem. Thus, superwomen across the world may be super, but have low self esteem, and aren’t loving themselves or finding happiness. According to a 2009 article called the “Paradox of Declining Female Happiness” by economists Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers, women are less happy after 40 years of feminism. According to the study, after having more opportunities then ever, women have a lower sense of well-being and life satisfaction. These findings were said to be true for women of different ages, married or not married, with or without children.

women are less happy after 40 years of feminism

Women, we need to understand that self awareness alone does not lead to high self esteem. In fact, your self awareness could inversely affect your self esteem if you realize you aren’t doing shit for your life, you can’t find a suitable lover, or your life isn’t turning out the way you had envisioned. Loving yourself is the only way to build your self esteem? So how to you become intimate with yourself and start loving yourself some more (Loving yourself ain’t the same as fucking yourself)?

Well what would you want from your ideal lover? What’s on your checklist for Mr. (or Ms.) right? Is it attention? Is it someone to tell you you’re beautiful? Is it physical attraction? It is intellect? Is it a sense of humor? The funny thing is, every woman has this checklist of items they are looking for in a companion, which they could turn onto themselves. If it’s attention you seek, then you need to give yourself more alone time. If it’s physical attraction, you should invest in some pampering to make you feel better about your own looks. If it’s humor, then find ways to make yourself laugh. You see loving yourself isn’t simply about setting aside alone time. It’s keeping to the statement of love:  “I’d do anything for you.” It’s being 100% honest with yourself. And its feeling good about yourself (in a non-sexual way).

That booty would pick up the phone and call you its damn self. lol

Typically females will think being forthcoming is out of their nature and that it will make them look like a “slut”.  There probably is some truth to their thinking, however… there is a difference between being a complete slut and initiating the company of some one who you could possibly throw down with in the bed room.  I personally don’t think anyone should hold back from owning what they want.  Sometimes things don’t work out how you want them right away… but 100% of shots not taken, are 100% of shots missed.  You don’t have to literally say “Wanna f*ck?!” for some one to come over and man-handle you… I think contact of any sort in the later hours to “hang out” or “chill” suggests the two of you hanging out in a setting that sexual intercourse could naturally happen.  If it doesn’t happen right away… it definitely plants the seed.  People just need to be honest at all times with what they want.  If all a female wants is sex, then that is what her heart needs to want too.  My big thing for women is to remind themselves that if they are going to initiate a booty call, they have to make sure they don’t have expectations after the fact.  Those expectations are what create awkward situations between two people who just want to go about their regular lives and remain cool… until the next booty call.  lol 

So tell us…  Can a woman be more forthcoming?  OR Would it be a complete turn off if a woman intiated the booty?

Her nails look good. lol

fem-fATL wants YOU to ANSWER BOTH: 1) Can good sex create a mature relationship? 2) Can good sex hold a relationship together?

I got this question from a friend’s facebook status message and enjoyed the roar of comments that followed.  Here’s what the ladies had to say:

I would love to think so… because if it is not good it sure knows how to mess a relationship up

Good sex can create a relationship,I’ve been a witness to that. Good sex can hold a relationship too,but not it alone.

Yes to both

yes and no, unless its purely a sexual relationship

Sex shouldn’t be the bases of a relationship, but friendship should.You can always learn to have good sex with some one you love to call your best friend, from the old school son!

My personal experience no.. Because that’s we based on our relationship on.. And most of the time it’s the girl who falls first that’s wants the change the sex into a relationship where the man was always just content with the good sex. But honestly sex is better when 2 ppl are trully into eachother in a committed form so yes that can make it last..

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

a real, mature and lasting relationship CANNOT be created or held together by good Sex alone ….

I dont think it can be created by good sex. Possibly enhanced, but not created. It may trick u into thinking u can have a relationship wit that person, but it takes more than sex to make it work. I mean a good, fun, exciting sex life is important…very important, but its not everything.

Horatio/Fellatio ---> HEAD (get it? if not read some literature)

Fellatio is smarty pants vocabulary for oral sex performed on a male. Today I learned that ‘fellacious’ is derived from this activity. Fellacious is slang for describing a pay off or reward with benefits:

Man, that skateboard trick I just landed was fellacious!

That chocolate was better than good, it was fellacious!

(Examples from Urban Dictionary)

So this is the FUCK DOWN report and I’m about to talk about sex. This is so awkward. Let’s just pretend this is an author-less text. Nothing I am about to say is personal. Instead I have been doing some research and pulling information from sex columnists and blogs online.

If you are self conscious, there are a number of books out there that will give you a list of tips and tricks for doing the job, but when it comes down to it there is only one major ingredient and that is enthusiasm.

Guys like it best when you seem into it rather than it’s a chore. If you act like your disgusted by it, don’t even bother. How is a guy suppose to get off if you are acting like your being forced  to do some type of dare like eating worms or bees?

Most guys don’t want the experience for you to be a form of cruel and unusual punishment. The way you approach the activity has everything to do with their own self conscious. If you have a look of laziness or horror on your face, they are going to be self conscious about their man goods (size, sprungness, and taste) and then the entire episode is tragic (or they might be frightened). In this scenario, you then have a person giving who wants no part in the giving and a person receiving who feels bad about the whole thing. Why would you do this? In this case, don’t be like Nike… be like a drug free kid and just say no.

Just Say No

On the flip side- if you are gonna do it, then like it. The act of fellatio has a poor connotation. People have made it out to be a degrading act. The mouth and taste is the least privileged of the five senses in western culture because it is a form of consumption. We totally privilege our perceptual senses: sight and sound. But putting things in the mouth is taking in the world and all its filth… so we get to this idea that fellatio is a filthy act. It also doesn’t help that phrases like ‘suck my dick’ are used in a derogatory way and then the whole act is tied to a male dominating female perspective. Also the placement of the goods and act of the deed creates a physical hierarchy with connotations of the guy being on top of the girl, but… how about we forget all that crap for a moment. Have you thought how the person giving could be the one empowered? Totally, they are the one in control! They are in the drivers seat controlling the stick shift (get my tokyo drift?). It’s actually dude who is in a weak spot. Pleasure is a weakness isn’t it… being so easily taken away? Pleasure is being out of control. So givers, you have every reason to be enthusiastic, you are in control and the deed is a role of empowerment! Empowerment is a great feeling and you can derive joy from it; meaning you can get off from doing while he gets off receiving. That’s why its sex people. Now grab a partner and dosy doe.

Oral-B Sex... lol literally.

People have their own thresholds for who gets the mighty mouth… and that is completely fine.  Some people like to save their giving natures for those who mean something to them or someone who is trusted to be cleaner than a medical laboratory.  Others don’t see HEAD as something that needs to be attached to emotions and connections to whoever they sleep with so its not a big deal, but rather a pleasure point not to be ignored.  And then, there are those who swear up and down they would never ever give head.  fem-fATL wants to know why some GUYS don’t participate in the HEAD game!  Even girls would understand why not if her stuff smelt like caviar on top of gorilla poo, but other than that… the ladies would like to know.  Is our junk too confusing for you?

haha damn... I think he's stuck.

Sure, the condom covered penis feels great inside of the vaginal walls… but are those walls lubricated? Is she being stimulated?  Are you sure? lol  Females do fake their orgasms when necessary.  Some times it can get to the point where the sex is just about you and your penis that she might question whether she’s getting raped. lol  Something guys need to understand is that the entire sexual experience is what really feels good for a girl- the way you come on to her, the way you caress her, the way you kiss her, the way you show her that her body is a temple and you are just a peasant trying to get in. (lol Don’t know where that last part came from.)  She is not going to ejaculate the same way you do… her anatomy is much different.  Whether you are just effin’ someone, in a new relationship, or an older relationship, there is always a chance for you to reclaim your mojo with your partner.  If you make a girl feel good about herself… and of course, rock the boat… she will respond with a great come back.

lmao... I'm sure parents were freaking out about this one.

Now, let’s get back to the HEAD piece. lol  This is such an intimate gesture that shows your willingness to pleasure your partner.  Think about it, only YOU and her gynecologist have been this up close and personal with her “junk.”  If her gyno can stick a finger in it, you surely can take it one step further and taste it. lol Every girl is different in what they like and what feels good for them, so if you are new to head giving… don’t be scared.  You will get better with trial and error… and what girl doesn’t like to boss around a guy every once in a while?  She is no better than you if she can’t tell you what feels good.

lollipop lollipop ooo lolli lolli pop

If you are trying to re-vamp your oral skills… try a couple of things:

 1) Turn off the lights! Everyone looks better in the dark. lol and if you’re scared of a little bit of P-juice, wipe it down with your hand to dry it up and wipe away anything that might make you gag. haha

2)  While you lickety split, listen to how she reacts.  If she breaks your neck, you are doing a great job. If you feel like you are licking a corpse, she’s bored and you should find out what makes her feel better. “Faster?” “Slower?” “Softer?” “Stronger?” and…

3) If you are going at it and want to ”wow” her… get back out and give her some more.  This will allow you to chill and extend the duration of your sexual experience.

Does that sound too HARD? lol  Now its your turn to let fem-fATL know whats up.  Oh… and please remember that abstinence is the key to STD and pregnancy prevention.  lol  But, if you must, wrap it before you tap it.  Guys & Girls, you can still give and receive STDs from giving and receiving oral sex.  For more info, check out Futurista’s safe sex post.

Stay tuned for “How to Give a Man Head.”  Taking all volunteers who are not camera shy.

I figured it would be good to give Futurista a little break from discussing the ohhh so many interesting, embarrassing, and hilarious topics of sex.  I decided that I wanted to give my personal FU*K down report a little twist.  Im a little shy..and I don’t normally talk openly about this topic (except with my girls of course!), so here goes.  Im not gonna discuss why you should consider using organic ky jelly (yes for you health freaks that really does exist) or what the best aphrodisiacs are (hey, that sounds like a good topic though!)  Im gonna include something I love, which is music….and who doesn’t like to listen to music that sets the perfect mood while your twirkin that thang down in the bedroom????  Unless your a computer technology nerd like Futurista and you love to hear the sounds of your computer harddrive humming in the background….hahaha J/K!!!

A good thing to have on your iTunes is a designated playlist dedicated to those certain songs that you listen to when your gettin you some.  That way whenever the time comes (and hopefully its not TOO long of a drought….Im just sayin!) you can just turn on the playlist and let the music set the mood.  You don’t want to have to sit there shuffling through your old ass embarrassing collection of N*SYNC and Montell Jordan.  So what I’ve put together for you are the Top 5 songs that you should play while sex….as well as the POSITIONS that go best with these songs, hahaha yes POSITIONS!!!  Click on the link to the songs, and get your lil freaky playslist started.

1.  Missionary Position

Song:  ”Bump & Grind” – R.Kelly

The Missionary position is known for being very sensual and a good way to connect with someone “one on one”.  If your into Making Love, this is the best position for you.  Your able to connect on more of an intimate level…which is why a more intimate song is needed for this position.   And who other than R.Kelly can can help you get in the missionary mood???  Cause I don’t see nothin wrong, with a lil bump & grind…

2. Cowgirl Position

Song: “Pony”- Ginuwine

The Cowgirl Position is all about the girl taking the lead and taking charge, which is why alot of people like this position.  She feels like the boss, and the guy has no problem being the slave.  Ginuwine’s “Pony” is the perfect song for this position cause its all about riding…leave the saddle at home though.

3. 69

Song: “Trading Places”- Usher

69 is all about switchin it up, and doing a position that you don’t normally do (unless your a serious freak and this is part of your normal routine).  Its all about both people getting pleasure at the same time, no one is being selfish and getting it all for themselves.  The perfect song for this is “Trading Places” by Usher, its all about switching it up and not doing the norm.

4. The Scarf

Song: “Freak Me”- Silk

The scarf is a pretty popular position (voted #1 by fem-fATL), and its all about the female with this one, you gotta keep her pleased.  The guy has a lot of work to put in with this one, and it involves a ton of lickin.  Which is why “Freak Me” by Silk is the perfect song.  No need to take notes, the lyrics starting off with “Let Me Lick You Up and Down…” explains it all.

5. Doggy Style

Song: “Freek’n You”- Jodeci

This position is all about letting the inner animal in you come out to play.  Guys love this position because they are taking control, and the girls don’t mind being taken control of.  This is a very freaky position, no other way to put it….which is why “Freek’n You” by Jodeci is the perfect song to have playing.  Fella’s don’t hold back from smackin the ass and pullin the hair.  Play this song and let the freak animal out of you…but please refrain from barking or howling at the moon.

“Muthafcuk the wagon…come join the band“- urbanSocialite

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If you are a normal human being, then the sound of a fart is funny. Don’t even act like it isn’t. If you were in a quiet room and someone farted, and that was all you heard and people pretended to ignore it- that would be an un-FART-unate reality. Because farting is funny and you don’t have to be part of Nickelodeon’s target audience to agree.

So what could be more embarrassing for a female during sexual activity then farting? And really- if it’s more embarrassing- it’s probably REALLY embarrassing so you just might want to keep it to yourself! Coochie farting on the other hand is some funny shit to talk about.

What exactly is a coochie fart, otherwise commonly called a pussy fart or queef? According to my numero uno source of everyday real talk, UrbanDictionary.com, the more appropriate term is vaginal flatulence (flatus vaginalis in Latin) and it is an expulsion of air from the vagina during or after sexual intercourse.

How is this at all relevant to the Atlanta scene? Well really we just thought it was funny. But if I had to force a connection: Atlanta is home to Georgia peaches, sweet tea & lemonade, and baby got back. And when baby’s got back, someone’s gonna want to hit baby from the back. And well here it comes: queefing is most often resulting after the “doggy style” position. So putting A + B together, I come to the conclusion that the embarrassing experience of queefing is a common experience for ladies in the A. All across Atlanta tonight as partners are backpacking across the love universe- Atlanta peaches are queefin in concerto! [LAUGH]

Caley Ratcliffe Art

Queefing occurs most commonly after very fast-paced or deep intercourse, so when two people are getting it on in the right way. Queefs occur when a an object – usually a dick creates a vacuum of air inside the vagine. You know like a little air bubble inside the vagina. LOL. This air bubble is usually due to the angle or position of said object as it enters the vagina or because of a condom (damn condoms). Queefs usually happen when the penis or object is removed or pushed deeper into the vagina.

While queefing sounds like flatulence from the anus (ass fart)- it does not involve the waste gases which exit the body from your booty and thus has no specific odors. It can be silent or volcanic, but your queef will not be deadly!

One of the reasons queefing during intercourse is so embarassing it’s because queefs are known to have a ‘wet sound’. So not only are you farting- but its a wet fart- a double whammy. And that’s just funny and disgusting.

Also you should know, queefs can happen during all activities of life; like when you stretch or exercise. Honestly I think it would be more embarrassing to be doing some squats at the gym and let one rip then with a partner I can laugh with at least. If I let one go in the gym, I’d totally act like the mentioned scenario at the top- LOL like I didn’t even hear it! bwhahahaha. So anyway, what we have learned is that while queefs are embarassing during sexual activity, its quite normal and fuck it.. it’s not like they smell.

I did a little bit of research for you all to find ways to avoid the queef. So here is what I came up with:

1. Lay on your back and push down on your lower abdomen to push out any air. Breath in and exhale from your diaphram.
   Caveat: This is not like giving birth (well I wouldn’t know, maybe it is). You might be pushing so hard you actually do fart or push something else out! You might shart on your bed! Now that’s funny. (Just B: That’s a sure thing he’s not coming back for more, unless he is into that kinky ‘shit’) bwahahahahahahhaha
2. Don’t do it doggy style. Don’t do it fast. Don’t do it deep. Fuck don’t even fuck.
   Caveat: what the fuck?
3. Push out your kegel muscles before a guy goes inside.
   Caveat: But then you are gonna be concentrating contracting your vag muscles that you won’t even enjoy yourself. Really its not that big of deal, and sometimes its completely unavoidable. So let loose.

I think it’s probably more embarassing for a guy to fart during intercourse then a girl’s queef. A queef is expected. If a dude farts he has no excuse! Leave behind your funniest queef stories!

Guys: Do you want to bust out laughing when a girl queefs? Do you try to act like it didn’t happen. Let us know!!!

We have magazines like Cosmo and Glamour that have fun little articles about how to be sexy and what turns on a guy, but really… have they written anything new?

Sex that will start a bonfire in his pants? Sounds like a disease. lol

So last subscription.

Also, nowadays there are many forums online where people ask their random anonymous questions about sex and hope to get answers from honest also random anonymous people.

Random and disturbing, but honest question.

This is the best answer?

haha. You know that guy did it with a dead girl. Why else would he ask.

This woman has serious issues. She sounds fn' crazy.

This is probably my favorite.

At fem-fATL we pride ourselves on our friendships with each-other and the ability to talk about fun stuff like sex without feeling uncomfortable. The fCUk Down will cover evocative topics concerning sex, but it won’t be magazine pg-13 or anonymous. We are real women, real friends, and this is real girl talk. The fCUk Down and its forum is like laying out by the pool with your girls, sipping on a Pina Colada, and cracking up omg-ing, and having that ‘are you serious????’ discussion! (ps BOYS… girls talk about that booty too!).

So to start this off right – I thought I’d jump into a sex topic less discussed between two pals (I’m not sure about guys.. but definitely girls don’t talk too much about this between each-other). This is the topic of MASTURBATION. Yes I said it. This is fem-fatl’s very own ‘Get Started Guide’ to a sub-section I’m calling ‘Do It Yourself or DIY!!!!!’

You have to know how the engine works before you put it on the market, otherwise you won’t know your selling points, it’s market value, or how to COMMUNICATE with customers!

We all do it! It was most likely your first sexual experience of any kind. If you don’t then your either lying, boring, or need to consult a counselor concerning your sexual health. Also, if your reply is you have a partner, so you don’t need to do that (“HE/SHE got it like that!”)… BIG MISCONCEPTION. You know the dating advice you’ve heard a million times: you can’t love another if you don’t love yourself? Well I’m telling you… you need to give yourself some LOVIN’ haha! Understanding your body and your own sexual needs is key to understanding your individuality and growing self awareness. The idea would be more or less: Why wait for someone else to turn you on? Why be dependent on someone else when you can be self-sufficient? It’s been said a million times and is no exception in regards to this topic: If you want something done right, you have to do it yourself! You have to know how the engine works before you put it on the market, otherwise you won’t know your selling points, it’s market value, or how to COMMUNICATE with customers!

1) Take a good long gander at your goods.

First thing first: you need to be one with your vagina! haha Take a mirror – sit up on your bathroom counter, get some type of lighting, and take a good long gander at your goods. If you are adult aged and have never seen your own twot – seriously??? It’s like checking your breasts for lumps, if you don’t know what you look like down there, how will you know when it looks weird? You might already have a weird looking vagina and you don’t even know it.

If your's looks like this? You should hook up with a gamer nerd. He'll know how to push your buttons. Get it? ps. This would make you abnormal. hahahaha

If you haven’t seen your own vagina, it would be weird if you’ve seen others! But if you were curious after examining yourself if what you saw in the mirror was the standard – go check out some porn. I’m sure one of your male friends will have some recommendations. For a fall back, there’s always Red-Tube.

Google ‘vagina’ and get a diagram of a vagina and look for your clit, your labia, perineum, etc. It’s good to know what everything is. You’ll be able to better express to a partner later what you like if you have an expanded vocabulary  (or can point it out  or direct a hand).

The next step in getting to know yourself, is touching. You can do it while you are comfortable laying down and just base it on feeling, but I recommend continuing to use a mirror. This way you can see what you are doing. At first it should be like studying yourself and not going into things blind. Additionally, you might find the reflection stimulating. Over time you might learn to appreciate your vagina.

It’ll be like looking in the mirror at your face for no reason (wasting time) because you feel pretty, except it won’t be your face, but your twot! LOL.

It’ll be like looking in the mirror at your face for no reason (wasting time) because you feel pretty, except it won’t be your face, but your twot! LOL. Nothing is more attractive then confidence. If you have rolls, saggy titties, stretch marks in awkward places, or a weird looking vagina, but your confident then FUCK it (literally hehehe) – your good to go!

So I’ll leave you with that first task. Coming up soon on the DIY- Starter Guide will be ‘Getting Started on Your Toybox’! Please check back, get checked, and… that’s the fCUk down!

FUTURISTA

Love, Sex, Magic is the second single from Ciara’s third studio album, Fantasy Ride, which releases on May 5th. The track was co-written and features Justin Timberlake. To me, the song has a 70s electro-funk element to it. Indeed, in the music video she sports different outfits which are reminiscent of glam rock icons. To me it conjures the colors and costumes of Elton John and David Bowie.

David Bowie & Glam Rock

Ciara in a Cage

Love, Sex, Magic has a retro vibe. At one point in the music video she also sports an afro. I think the way she plays with the vibes is fun, but I think the song is mediocre. I’ll listen to it on the radio, but might switch the station half way through. Still, Ciara is an Atlanta native, so whether or not you dig her, it’s always good to show some love to fellow ATLiens.

The lyrics of the song play with the idea of sex and magic. The magic referred to in the song is the type used in performances of stage conjurors (our elementary understanding of the magician as type of stage act). But there is another practice of magic that goes beyond illusionists like Houdini and David Blaine.

Houdini

Let me scrape the surface of the other much less commercial (much more controversial) Love, Sex, & Magick. Not to spill any secrets, but just to let you aware (after all it’s good to have an open mind).

I’ll just start with the wikipedia definition, since that’s easier then me trying to write my own.

Sexual magic is the application of the energy of sexual arousal and/or orgasm, impressed with the strongly visualized image of a desired result, into the sphere of causal energy, with the hope of producing a desired change in the realm of manifestation.

Sex Magick comes out of occult or esoteric traditions. If you think you are a freak, I challenge you to pick up some books on sex magick and see how long you can hang. Sex magick involves intricate rituals, patience, and dedication. If you have ever heard of tantric sex, the two share lots in common and have influenced each other. Don’t be scared by words like ‘ritual’ because pretty much everything we do in life is some form of ritualistic behavior. Sex in general has its rituals. Alot of couples turn towards books on the Karma Sutra and Tantric sex when those sex rituals get a little boring.

If you think you are a freak, I challenge you to pick up some books on sex magick and see how long you can hang.

If you roll (around the sheets) solo, you can use Sex Magick to ‘be one with yourself’ and get to know yourself even more intimately. What you should know about Sex Magick is that it is about the connection of three things: mind, body, and soul and the energy you can harvest from that connection. For the fem-fATLs, this can be one approach to better understanding your inner goddess (I’ll write an article on that later)!

Peace Goddess

If you are interested in Sex Magick (its history, what it is, and how perform it), I recommend starting off simple with some accessible books you might find at Barnes & Nobles or Borders. These will be much more water-downed versions of Sex Magick, but much easier to take down as a lightweight. Once you build up some tolerance for the language and ideas, you can dig deeper into the subject matter.

Futurista

Don't Sleep with Scorpions

For Atlantans, this is crucial. Did you know Georgia is ranked the third highest state with Syphilis cases after Louisiana and Alabama. 7.3 out of 100,000 people are infected  with syphilis in Georgia. Georgia is also ranked 5th with Gonnorhea and 6th with Chlamydia (http://www.avert.org/stdstatisticusa.htm).

Atlanta is on the top ten list of reported AIDS cases by metropolitan area with 17,157 people as reported by the Center for Disease Control (2007). This does not even count the number of people living with HIV only.

What is more alarming is that persons under the age of 24 are at the highest risk of getting HIV/AIDS in the world. Young people (under 25 years old) account for half of all new HIV infections worldwide (http://www.avert.org/worldstats.htm).

What this all means is that we are swimming in a cesspool of disease other times known as Atlanta. It’s a war on disease, which side do you want to be on?  I think I’ve done my civic duty today, but I’ll do just one more thing for the common good of ATL. Following are some Atlanta spots  where you can get yourself checked out for HIV/AIDS for FREE! For STDs check this site to find a place near you: http://www.hivtest.org/search/result.cfm

FREE HIV TESTING ORGANIZATIONS in ATLANTA:
AID Atlanta Incorporated
1605 Peachtree St NE
Atlanta, Georgia 30309-2433

Positive Impact Incorporated
139 Ralph McGill Blvd
Atlanta, Georgia 30308-3339

AIDS Research Consortium of Atlanta
131 Ponce de Leon Ave NE Ste 130
Atlanta, Georgia 30308

Get yourself checked and check these sites out as well:

For the best information on all things sexually transmitted:
Atlanta is home to the Department of Health and Human Services:

Centers for Disease Control
http://www.cdc.gov
http://www.cdc.gov/STD/
http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/

MTV Links
Because wherever you live, MTV is cool and has been using its power to preach safer sex for at least a decade!

YES YES YES Campaign

YES YES YES
A “Say Yes to Safe Sex” campaign by MTV and The Body Shop.

Staying Alive Campaign
MTV’s global HIV and AIDS awareness and prevention campaign

For good stats on HIV & AIDS:
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Say yes to safe sex & celebrate STD Awareness month by getting yo ass (or other private part) in check!

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