A lot of young men and women nowadays are so bound to the “codes” that without realizing it, they let their soul mates go with a blink of an eye. I personally don’t believe in the “code book” because you can’t help who you are interested in,or fall in love with. Yes, I understand that there’s a “territory”, but if she’s not interested, and she’s clearly into you, and not your friend; Why Wait?
Below are the top three flagged answers:
- Never step on your girl/guy’s territory
- Never date your best friend’s crush
- Never date your friend’s ex
Interesting facts, I must admit. Now I am going to give you my personal opinion on those. Ready?
1. Territories are L A M E. If your friend is someone you are very close to, I am sure that eventually you will both start having almost identical taste in a woman/man, or similar interest. Can you help it? No… If your friend happens to see your “potential”, and jumps at it, some of you will fight over them, but who does that anymore! Most likely, you’ll beat around the bush, and ask yourself every night, what if! If your friend is ok with it, then that’s all that should matter.
2. Best friend’s crush: hence the word c r u s h. If nothing has been done about it, and they keep lolligaging around, and haven’t made a move yet; if you want it, do it. What do you have to lose? If nothing’s been done, it’s probably because they are not meant to be. While all this time was wasted, you could’ve made memories! (just saying!)
3. Friend’s E X= Sloppy Seconds: I don’t think that’s appropritate. Now if they’ve only dated casually, and no sexual or physical activities were involved, I’d weight out the pros, and cons before making a move. I don’t think you’d like seeing your friend with your ex. It breaks relationships. If you are sure, think it’s meant to be, and it’s your destiny, that’s entirely up to you. (Note: If your friend says it’s ok, they really don’t mean that!) I’ve seen cases where some became married, and lived happy ever after. There are exceptions. I believe that.
There are plenty of fishes in the sea. Though Atlanta is a small city, that’s still doesn’t mean your potential has been with everyone you know. Have fun with it, and do what feels right. Don’t listen to your head below, but the one above!