Nobody wants to be called a “Pussy”… I mean, what do you think of when you hear this word?  Does it remind you of a kitten? Lol. How the hell does pussy represent a kitten, a vagina, and the adjective “scared” all at once?  “You a little scared kitten’s vagina!” Ouch.  Try saying that when you are getting your ass beat… That will confuse a bitch. She’ll say… “What did u say?” And then you say, ” you heard me… You a little scared kitten’s vagina!”  It will take your enemy 3 seconds to connect the dots, all the while buying you time to run away. Lol

Okay, I just went off on a tangent.  My whole point was that some people are pussies. Lol.  And I’m not calling people scared little kitten’s vaginas… I’m saying some people live multiple lives like a cat who lives 9.  These people need to be medicated ’cause it’s crazy that they have this much time on their hands and lies like cockroaches (where there is one… there are more to follow).  Don’t be so naive anymore to think that just because you are getting approached by some one that this some one is SINGLE.  It would only make sense that they were single, but here in the ATL… “there are just too many beautiful women” and “It’s too hard to pass up all these options.”  Yes, these guys really told me this stuff.  This has been quite an interesting topic to me and I have found that asking “Are you in a relationship?” should be a priority question over “What kind of car do you drive?”  If he says he drives a Honda Accord… it is probably his girl’s car anyway!  Per conversation with a few guys, who I ever so politely declined, I have gathered that they are “kickin it”, “involved”, or “chillin” (etc.) with a certain female… “but it’s nothin serious.”  If these are the beat around the bush answers that you get…  nod your head as a response, then ask them even more clearly for a YES or NO response… “So… are you in a relationship?”  And that’s when they give you that dumb fuck blank stare and the light bulb comes on in their head that… if you are “kickin it”, “involved”, or “chillin” with a certain female… for a prolonged period of time… you are in a fuckin relationship!!!  (For the sake of a minimal discussion here, we will not discuss those who are engaged/married).  Now, I do RESPECT the guys who are forthcoming of their relationship statuses… that is REAL of them at least.  But, it is sad to say they know that there are some women who will still give them time and sex… even when a man is taken (and unofficially taken by other side chicks).  The point of this 9 Lives Theory is not to bash anyone who deceives or those who consent to messing with a taken person… but rather to open up another perspective for naivety.

It is one thing to know what you are involving yourself with and it is another thing to be completely mislead.  Unfortunately, some of us will have to experience these things the HARD way before we mature and grow in the relationship department.

“If you are still in La La Land and want to do your best to prevent yourself from getting shitted on, wiped from back to front, and flushed into sewage hell… do yourself a favor and use your 5 senses.  Open up your eyes, listen closely, if you smell something fishy… touch those questions and get a taste of who this person really is.” -Just B (lol… had to)

Don’t allow yourself to get so lost in translation that you lose your 5 senses… or sense at all.  You don’t have to be a cold wretch… just ask the right questions!

PS. Many times, I write based on questions that YOU guys email me.  Keep the e-mails coming!!!  Thanks guys!!! If anyone else would like their “SHITUATIONS” discussed on fem-fATL, confidentially, please e-mail me at justb@fem-fatl.com