Unwanted Attention

Believe it or not, I video DJed this past weekend at Grant Park as a part of a school event. This semester I have been taking a music technology class on network music and we are developing a mobile application for collecting urban soundscapes and a web application for creating paths that remix the sounds. My performance on Sunday was a part of pilot run of our software. Part of our project is a plugin for DJs and VJs to generate performances on the fly with content from our application. Because I’ve never VJed or DJed before in my life, I wanted to come correct with a stable basis for my show with clips from a popular film. Since we were demoing at Grant Park, I chose to do a remix of Gone with the Wind. I thought the content that we collected during our pilot would be a nice reference to this beloved ATL film and Grant Park reminds me of the remnants of ATL‘s old past.

In any case, all of this story is to get me to the main topic of this post. As I was preparing for my set, I revisited many clips of Gone with the Wind. One particular clip really stuck with me. It is when Rhett Butler visits Scarlet and tells her the following lines;

Rhett Butler: No, I don’t think I will kiss you, although you need kissing, badly. That’s what’s wrong with you. You should be kissed and often, and by someone who knows how.

Oh Rhett Butler! You are so dreamy! I wish I could teleport back in time and kiss you often and badly! Rhett’s comment didn’t stick with me because it was a good line, but because it made so much sense to me when I put myself in the young and naive shoes of Scarlet O’Hara. It wasn’t simply that Scarlet needed kissing, we all need some kissie kissie time. And, it’s not simply that we need attention, we all need attention! No, Rhett is specific, Scarlet needs kissing by someone who knows how! She needs a REAL MAN.

(Chorus)
‘Cause a real man knows a real woman when he
sees her (when he sees her)
And a real woman knows a real man
Ain’t ‘fraid to please her (please her)
And a real woman knows a real man always
comes first (first)
And a real man just can’t deny
A woman’s worth (a woman’s worth)
- Alicia Keys

Well, what the hell is a REAL MAN? Obviously it is a subjective matter, but trust me you’ve already defined it. I’m sure you have a mile long list of standards you wrote down for yourself. You battled over what was important to you in a man and what you were willing to put up with. Because I live life seriously, my list is prioritized (lol). What Scarlet did and what so many women do is they tuck that list away because well let’s face it, its tough out there on the battle field of love (Starts singing Jordan Sparks).

I’ve had advice from so many friends, you need to lower your standards or your standards are too unrealistic. Well it’s true, it’s difficult to find a guy who has it all together and meets all my criteria, but I know they are out there because I’ve met one or two. Whatever type of list you have believe that there is a Mr. Perfect. After all, it’s true there are many fish in the sea.

My dad was a fisherman and if there is anything that he has taught me, it is that you need to be patient. If you move to fast, you might pull the line before the fish bites. If you wait too long, the fish can nibble on the bate or get off the hook. So always be patient and remember that timing is everything- especially when it comes to Mr. Perfect! Don’t waste your bate pulling small time fish that you can’t even take home because they are under the weight limit (double entendre there – haha – if you don’t get it I understand). You need somebody that KNOWS how to kiss you. Have you ever kissed a guy who was shorter than you or really really taller than you? … AWKWARD. What I’m trying to say is that you need someone on your level, whatever level that might be. When they kiss, they’ll kiss correct (when I come, I come correct).

Au revoir unwanted attention.