aka LOVE

“Hell knows no wrath like the fury of a woman scorned.” -anonymous

I haven’t heard too much about the musical talents of Melanie Fiona in the ATL, but this girl is noteworthy and I definitely recommend some of her music on your playlists.  I caught this skit from youtube and thought it was hotter than bad breath on a hot day.  We always sit around and try to rhyme like this, but it just never comes out quite the meaningful and thought provoking intent that Fiona delivered.  We just end up laughing at ourselves.  Fiona’s rhyme makes me feel like she has some kind of control over me… like I could go on Maury Povich and fight somebody.  Not really… lol  How is it that LOVE can make us so happy one moment and then turn around and make us risk getting locked up for wanting to kill somebody the next?  Hold up, What is LOVE?

People are lucky to find that one true partner in their lifetime.  Most people fall in LUST and miscontsrue such a strong emotion with an even stronger phenomenon… LOVE.  I think that people have to be real with themselves and their relationships at all times.  When people are initially interested in eachother, they lust over each other.  Whether they make it to LOVE depends on if aside the material things and looks, this person will add to your life.  Everyone is different and have their own standards for a partner… but if you determine this person will require forced compatibility, they need to get subtracted!  Sounds mean but, it is much better to subtract someone before adding another person ;o)

If someone asked me what the difference between the two were, I would say that love has all the components of lust (the excitement, the attraction, the fun, the addiction), but love takes relationships to another level because there is an intrinsic connection between two people that you can’t explain nor can you be without.  This intrinsic connection does not mean that you are ONE with your lover, but rather TWO people, growing individually in sync through the ups and downs, through the flaws and all, and without irretrievably breaking the foundations of a loving relationship.  This person is your equal or your better… and your relationship is just as fundamental as it is enriching and secure.  A title and symbols of your relationship (married and a ring) are only embellishments of what is already unbreakable.

Everyone experiences and shares love differently, however, in all cases Love is natural.  You should always work to keep the lust component alive, but when you have that true connection with someone, no matter what happens or what external influences attempt to test your connection… there is little work or effort involved.  If a problem arises, the two of you can adapt and make sacrifice to keep a balance in both of your lives.

Now, I understand that people are going to go through some shit together and have their disputes… arguments and trying times are TRANSITIONAL times for two people to grow in their relationship.  There are a number of things that people can fight about just as easily as they can overcome them, but the keyword is transition and this is where adaptation and sacrifice come into play.  If two people can’t make it through the downs, they won’t see the ups. I believe protecting another person’s heart the way you protect your own means there would be no instigation on your behalf of utter disrespect and complete denigration of your lover.  You can’t expect anyone to adapt and sacrifice easily, thus transitioning, with you if you have broken them and the foundations of your relationship.  This person has to be let go in order to put their self back together, whether they have been cheated on, beat on, lied on, etc.

Letting go of someone who hurt you does not necessarily mean that the love is gone or never existed and this is probably as equally or more hurtful as losing someone to death.  Even to the end of a relationship, love is shown when you let go because you understand your love for this person continues to want what’s truly best for them, whether it is a life with or without you.  Only in the end will people discover that their relationship was built on lust or love.  The end of LUST means life was better without that person and there is some one else out there to make you happier in all aspects.  LOVE ages like fine wine and to the very last drop… love doesn’t end… not even after that day that was never promised to either of you.

To end this… Melanie Fiona is not far off in saying that “if he loved me, he wouldn’t do it to me.”  It takes a strong woman to leave a man who hurts her!  That is loving yourself… and allowing him to learn from his mistakes.

………. Now get the f*ck outta here… lol all this mushy talk is drivin me crazy!!!  This was just a few thoughts on love that I put together, but even I don’t hold the true definition of LOVE. Please let me know if you have a better definition or additions to my own!!!