“A word to the wise ain’t necessary — it’s the stupid ones that need the advice.” -Bill Cosby

Some times people need a Blunt Bill Cosby in their life.

Damn… Bill Cosby can say anything he wants… lol I love bluntness.  Atlhough I find this quite funny, I must say there are plenty of people who can always use a little bit of advice…   especially people who are trying to finally let go of that lingering relationship.  Relationships can make all of us a little stupid anyways.  I think it’s human nature to have a hard time dealing with LOSS of any kind, whether it is death, break ups, friends moving away, kids going off to school…etc.  People can come into your life for a period of time and have profound effects on you.  The longer you’ve been with someone and the more shared experiences you have with them (childbirth, homeowning, re-location etc.)… makes loss of a relationship a much more difficult experience.  If you decide that it’s probably best to keep it movin…then, you have to trust in bigger and better things and press on.  I think people find this easier to do when they are experiencing an eruption of emotion, such as anger.  I dunno about you… but when I’m fuckin pissed off, I can move mountains.  (lol)  But, what about when you are not experiencing a huge emotion… you’re dealin with it now… but you are just ready to move on.  How do you communicate to someone effectively that you are finito (aka… finished)?

I think YOU gotta be convinced of yourself that you are done with this person, for whatever reason.  Every one will have their own reasons because everyone also has their own capacity for bullshit that they will deal with.  Some people need Bill Cosby in their life because they can’t seem to identify complete DISRESPECT and IRREPAIRABLE circumstances.  Others will just need to state their claim and stick to their guns with a little bit of tough love… and with “out of sight, out of mind”… things will start to fall into place as they should with time.  Time heals all wounds.

Here’s something along the lines of what I would recommend…  (feel free to copy and paste and alter for your own use… don’t say I never did anything for you. lmao)

Dear Dumb F*ck,

To keep this as simple as possible, I do not see us in a relationship.  We are not going to be having casual sex… and we definitely can not be just friends at this point.  My mental and emotional states are so detached right now because of all the BS that I would probably end up doing YOU wrong… and that’s not the type of person I am so I don’t want to put myself in that situation. I need to really let go of this and cease communication with you so that I can reach clarity on my own and decide whether life is better with or without you. That is the only way I’ll be able to confidently attempt anything more than just friends with you. So please give me that respect and just let it be what it is. You do you and I’ll do me… and if its in our cards to re-visit “us” again, then it will happen and it will happen with a clean slate. Your actions at that point will mean more to me than any apology or promise of being better.  Take care and good luck with all your future endeavors.

Lol… hmmm… so tell me, is this too harsh?  How would some of you react if you received this?  Would you send this if you needed to cut some one off?  Any better approaches?